The Happiness Trap: Happiness for the Rest of Us

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The Happiness Trap: Happiness for the Rest of Us

A frustrated victim of motivational speakers, Arena begins her look at the happiness industry with us while reading The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. She will take us back to a Millionaire Mind Seminar where her quest to live her dreams brought her to a standstill with debt, legal trouble, and living in her worst nightmare - geographically, even.

Amy Arena holds a B.A. in American Studies from San Francisco State University. A respected actress and world-renown singer (at least underground) , Arena has written several peer-appreciated, but not-yet-produced plays, has published poetry and won awards for her short stories on websites that no longer exist, and produced an album that she can't afford to hype with the finesse of the happiness experts.

  • Manifesting Mayhem

    I recently got in a little debate with a friend of mine about how to go about manifesting what you want.  We were speaking on internet chat so I don’t know if we were mis-communicating because that’s what we do or if we were impeded from clarity because of the nature of type-talking.  The issue was that I felt you needed to practice where she felt you could pop into such power.  At least, that’s what I was arguing, but again, it seems we were arguing against points we didn’t understand.

    I believe even to pop needs practice.  I wanted to tell her my many Manifesting mistakes that I’m still working on.  I am AWESOME at manifesting.  However, my skills for some time were off.  I’m saying “were” off because I don’t want to give power to the present moment.  That’s how you do it, right?

    Ok, so, I have a lot of examples.  Maybe that’s what I’ll blog about for a little while.  For now, though, let me just bring up this one from last night.

    I’m getting my money sorted out and a few years of a bad mood because I moved somewhere I didn’t want to be.  I’m not sure how someone does something so huge by accident, but I did.  I’m pretty magnificent that way.  One of the things my marriage badly needs is a bed.  He sleeps on the couch and I sleep on a trundle because we left the bed in Detroit. 

    We thought we’d move out of our “transition” home in a few months and deal with it later.  We haven’t moved.  The bed’s still there.  When we have money, we plan on moving again and decide we shouldn’t buy a bed until we do move.  Recently, I gave up on the idea and figure when we move we’ll find a way to move the bed, too.  So I’ve been wishing for a bed.  Hoping to win a Posturpedic.  Yeah!  Apparently, what I’ve been asking for is a “free bed.”

    Yesterday I was offered a new twin with mattress and frame.  Free. 

    With no intention of quoting Ms. Spears, “Oops, I did it again.”

    Tagged: Britney Spears Manifestation Manifestation Mistakes Get What You WAnt Self Help Self Transformation Personal Transformation

    Posted on April 22, 2011 with 8 notes

  • Complete!

    I’ve had a lot of coffee on this beautiful spring day, but I also walked one of the dogs and finished with “The Happiness Project.”  Does anyone know how to underline?   You might guess I didn’t go to work today, my first day.  They called and said they’d made a mistake and to come in tomorrow.  I kept telling myself, “This is great.  I can watch the sunrise.”  That was how I was shaping my attitude at 5:30 AM.  I sold a CD on CDBaby, too.  I get so excited when someone doesn’t buy from me directly.  It’s cheaper to buy from me, of course, and I like fanning my friends and friending my fans, but it’s nice to think I’m reaching someone unknown.

    Now that I’m finished with Rubin’s book, I have to pick a new one.  The last chapter simply recapped things in a general way.  The final verdict is that her “Resolutions Chart” proved to make her the most happy.   I only made it into about ten weeks of that. Yesterday I thought I should print a new one and try again because tracking progress seems to be an important element I’ve been missing in a LOT of important affairs.  I don’t really understand why considering most of us grew up in a school system that made tracking a standard way of life.

    I’d recommend the book, now that I’m done.  I can’t think of a more practical book on self-satisfaction since I read Covey’s “Seven Habits of Highly Successful People.”  I was eighteen then and didn’t have any real moral issues at that point so I felt like I was already living the book, but horribly unsuccessful.  Still am, mostly?  Maybe I should read that again.  Perhaps I’ll have a different opinion.  Anyway, I need to pick something. 

    Your thoughts?

    Meanwhile, I gave up on the Silva Mindfulness Training, but they traded me for their Silva Ultra Mind System.  I’m on day 2.  Now THIS is the most practical thing I’ve ever done.  I used to read their email all the time and had a free introduction the the course years ago.  I’ll say this, if you have had any interest in meditation, but no patience to shut off your mind, this practice is very helpful.  Of course, when I was listening to the guided meditation this morning the tree guy came out to do some removals in my neighborhood with chain saws :)  It’s ok.  I got through it in the afternoon.

    I’m going to take a look at my resolutions chart now.  You should search out Rubin and see how she does hers.  I haven’t even done that yet, but if you don’t like reading books, apparently the chart is the most valuable part to her year-long adventure and, perhaps, yours.

    Tagged: Happiness Trap, Happiness, gretchen rubin, rubin, Resolutions, resolutions chart, meditation, self help happiness project gretchen Silva Method Jose Silva cdbaby.com seven habits covey stephen covey

    Posted on April 4, 2011

  • You are an explorer, and you represent our species, and the greatest good you can do is to bring a new idea, because our world is endangered by the absence of good ideas. Our world is in crisis because of the absence of consciousness.

    Terence McKenna (via elige)

    I’m stealing this from another blogger because Terrance McKenna wisdom actually does make me happy.  So, now, as I explore happiness, I need to consider a new idea.  A new idea?  I’m not very technical.  I can only rearrange words in slightly new or at least forgotten ways.  I can arrange melodies in mch the same, humble way.  I used to have new ideas on saving a dime, but now that EVERYBODY’S broke, people are catching up to my inventiveness.  So, now what?  Think, Amy.  THINK!

    (via howtoberighteous)

    Tagged: happiness trap, pursuit of happiness, personal transformation, happiness spiritual enlightment self help personal empowerment

    Posted on March 30, 2011 via γνῶθι σαυτόν with 372 notes

    Source: slychedelic

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